Couples therapy is often misunderstood as a last resort for relationships in trouble, but that’s not always the case. Preventative therapy is for couples who are looking to improve their relationship. Couples seeking this type of support may be in a great place in their partnership and feel there is room for improvement. As relationships grow and shift, sometimes we can expect our partners to know what we’re thinking. In preventative therapy, we’ll work with you to strengthen your communication skills allowing you to be direct about asking for what you need.
Preventative therapy can be a very relationship-affirming experience. We believe there is no shame in wanting to renew and strengthen your bond. We know healthy communication skills are crucial in long-lasting relationships and that there’s always room for growth and understanding. Rather than viewing relationship support as a weakness, we believe it shows the depth and strength of your relationship by your prioritizing your commitment to learning. It doesn’t break the romance or show weakness. Nor will it won’t ruin the likelihood of marriage or its success, if anything it serves to increase the intimacy between partners through honesty.
In fact, it’s common for people to come in sharing how great everything is while also feeling that they can do better. This therapy environment is very neutral because individuals aren’t fearful. Instead, they’re opely seeking new skills and wanting to be collaborative. This creates a welcoming environment that many who’ve never attended preventative therapy haven’t experienced. Some of the most common issues we see couples experiencing in our preventative therapy sessions include dealing with children from previous relationships, managing relationships with exes in co-parenting and exploring themes in sexuality.
Resilience Lab therapists approach preventative therapy by helping each individual in the relationship identify healthy and unhealthy communication patterns. For example, one person in the relationship may have a habit of using their phone while the other person is speaking. While this may not signify a crisis in the moment, over time, it may wear on the person speaking and make them feel disregarded. In this case, our therapist would work with the couple to uncover potentially problematic patterns before they fully arise. This is where preventative therapy really shines. We’ll help you process everyday life and suggest making improvements where possible.